Friday, February 20, 2015

Absent for fun

I have been absent for a very good reason.  I have been absent for fun.  I have been busy laughing and traveling to and from Boston.  My goal is to be the funniest Celeste I can be.  That being said, I miss all of you. 

I have no great saying or some new found aha moment that will serve anyone a purpose.  Nothing really, or do I?  I usually do don't I?  Even if it is a bit, how do we say, rambly.

I am writing this not because I want you to read it but because I want me to read this.  Every now and then we get caught up with all that is going on around us.  We become what I call a victim of our own circumstances.  We forget our own goals and dreams, allowing others to dictate our lives for us.

The only person in this world that holds us back from our goals is ourselves.  We have a, "blame the lowest common denominator" society.  "I am not doing well because, xyz and she/he wasn't really doing their share."  Sometimes we have to do our share and everyone elses share too.  Sometimes we HAVE to go it alone to get what we want.  SOMETIMES we have to PUSH and PUSH.  SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO LOOSE A FEW FOLKS TRAILING BEHIND AND NOT BECAUSE WE DON'T LOVE THEM.

I preach a lot about loving our fellow human but there is a difference between loving them and working with them.  Sometimes in order for us to get done what we need to get done we need to politely say, "I am sorry we obviously are not on the same page I am moving ahead on my own."  Or we need to politely decline an offer, "I am sorry I would love to help you but I am afraid I would slow you down."  It's okay to move aside or move on. 

For example Pistol Shrimp my Improv Group, I love those ladies and we had a BLAST.  However, I saw the signs all over the place, different priorities, changes in plans and people moving forward in other directions.  THAT IS OKAY.  They did what they needed to do and that is AWESOME!!!!  I don't think we can all possibly be on the same page at the same time and when it is right, it is right.  At no point did I feel animosity or feel frustrated with them focusing on different goals.  I felt disappointed because I LOVED spending time with the girls but that was it.

I think sometimes we try to play nice in fear of hurting people.  It is the old saying if one door closes another opens.  If we REMEMBER this in life we would have an easier time accepting those closing doors.  I really believe that we need to remember that we are all writing our own books.  If a chapter is done let it go, if someone said they want to be a part of something and they are not that is okay.  Maybe they really wanted to but are not organized, focused, enough.  Who knows the exact reason but don't get angry at them, move forward, find a way to make it work.

I am writing this to REMIND MYSELF that I need to focus better for the sake of all my future plans and focus for the sake of other future plans with friends.  My friend Sharon and I had a big plan we never got off the ground but I shouldn't stop.  So I go back to the drawing board.  I rework my work and I look for a way to bring about change. 

Life is too short to hide in the shadows and pout, stomping our feet when things don't go our way.  Sometimes the best thing we can do is look at our own accountability.  I am unhappy because I can't get done what I want to get done, why?  Is someone slowing you down, change direction, is it something you are doing, make changes. 

Don't just let life happen, you live your life.

So how is your Garden Growing?

Mine has been under about 3 feet of snow for about six months.  ;-) 
Moving forward though, always moving forward whether I like it or not.  SO why not like it, regain control. 

Oh and if you want to come see me, come check out this future endeavor I got off the ground.  It's going to be a great time.

SUNDAY MARCH 15, 2015

At the Curtis House Inn
3:00pm to 5:30 pm and afterwards we meet up and chat.
A gallery with me tea/coffee and snacks
Price is still to be determined and this will be up on their Web page soon.
Price $25.00 a person with limited seats. Come check out the longest running Inn in Connecticut and enjoy your time with me.

http://www.curtishouseinn.com/


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