Sunday, November 22, 2015


We all make mistakes
We all fuck up
We all hurt people
At some point if we continue to make the same mistakes
It becomes a choice
We need to accept that if we continue to lie to someone it's a choice
If we lie when we don't need to that is a choice
If we cheat once it could be a mistake
More than once, a choice
If we use hurtful words once it's a mistake
If we do it more than once it's a choice

Be the Archer. 


Accept that you are not perfect and made a mistake.

Recover from the pain you caused yourself by the pain you have caused others.

Change your behavior that you keep repeating.  If you promise to change and then repeat the behavior again you have not changed and can not be upset if people block you out of their lives, even if temporary. 

Help yourself move on but let them know you have changed.  You CAN NOT make them forgive you but you can apologize so that you can move on.

End a relationship that keeps creating this toxic behavior in yourself.  Even if you love them it isn't right to continue to hurt someone.  Tuck this away as a lesson.

Release this situation and move on, promise yourself you are going to try to create a better, healthier pattern in other relationships. 

Be the archer. 

Tuesday, November 17, 2015



It's a simple word, I think I used it a ton as a kid. 
Oops I spilled the milk
Oops I broke the plant
Oops I dropped my bowl
Oops I killed a bug
Oops I broke my toy

What I find is, as I became an adult I stopped using oops.  I also stopped having humility.

Oops, I am sorry I hurt your feelings.
Oops, I didn't mean to forget your birthday.
Oops, I am sorry you feel I don't love you because I have been distant.


I know very human beings lately who are okay with making mistakes.  Mistakes, it is a part of the human experience.

You know what else, I don't see anymore, people being honest.

Celeste you are complaining about something again.
Celeste you can't seem to get your head out of your rear end.
Celeste you are not being nice today.
Celeste you need to be more responsible for the way you present information.

So I can say oops I am sorry but I can only apologize if real friends are honest with me. 

I have come to feel black listed from a certain group of people I loved a great deal.  Do you know what?
I have not asked them about it. 
I have not asked if they want to get together. 
I have not asked them if I did something wrong. 
They have not told me I have. 

So who black listed me?  I DID! 

Communication is so important so that it gives us a chance to say, "Oops I am sorry."  It also allows us the chance to walk away from something that doesn't serve us.  So if someone keeps telling us how horrible we are but 30 other people tell you that you are awesome, guess what you need to let go of?  Not the ones who love you.

So anyway, just some random thoughts written in a very free, fluid kind of thought pattern.  Maybe this makes no sense and it's a ramble of epic proportions.  Or maybe just one of you will understand why Oops and I am sorry need to come back.  Why true and honest friendships need to be front and center.  How it is we are all very much human. 

Forgive often (yourself and others)
Love deeply
Apologize honestly
Be honest
Open up channels of communication with out expectations
Be free of judgment of others