Grief.... Let the tears flow

Grief is a beast of an event for any one to experience.  We all suffer from this thing we call grief.

I view grief as a cancer like substance that just absorbs us completely, it sort of eats away at our soul and all those things around us loose meaning.  It is painful, tiring and almost a quick sand like experience. 

There are those days when the world seems hopeless and you will feel helpless.

There are those days you will see a light at the end of the tunnel and you will try to embrace it.

There are people that seem to float threw loss with little to no tears but they do not verbalize the emptiness they carry.

I often say some of us swallow our grief like rocks, we feel heavy, burdened and malnourished while others become empty and just float through the process but they feel no less the pain those who swallowed rocks feels.

As I watch my dear family grieve through the loss of my mother I am astounded how for some it changes their entire lives and out look on things and others just keep moving through with what appears to be little acknowledgement but really, like the rest of us, they cry at night.

We all carry the burden of grief in a different way and we should not become angry at ourselves for how long it takes to heal or how we face our grief. 

What I can say is that those who have passed do NOT want us to fall into the dark pit of sadness and hopelessness.  They want us to remember the laughter and the joy they shared with us.  They want us to remember the smiles and the life they lived.

When we are ready, we just need to remember and celebrate, to make that grief find a different way of existing.  Truthfully though loss is never easy and never goes away completely, we just learn to fly with a few less feathers on our wings.  So let the joy and laughter lift you up as you remember the joy and love of those you have lost.