The Blog about Blogging

I was sitting here thinking I should blog.  Then I thought, "but what do I want to blog about?"

Blogging, blogging is not just for the benefit of the public.  The public being you poor creatures who read this drivel.  The benefit of blogging is for me to decompress or send out messages that I keep seeing come up again and again.  That is why I blog, it is just as much about myself as for the readers.  I once read that someone said, "I started making my Blog about the people who read it."  I will never do that to you, it is for all of us.

So that being said the word Trust came up a lot in my last few readings.  Learning to trust that spirit is communicating with you, learning to trust those little signs that you feel are just coincidences and so on and so forth.  The biggest problem I know I faced as a child was that I was supposed to trust in God, this being I can't see but not to believe in Ghosts which I had full experiences with.  How am I supposed to trust things that I do not see? 

That is where faith comes in I suppose. 

Faith that these things are real so that you can trust your interaction with them.

I would love to say that I have had faith in God and that he will always provide for me should I ask.  I have been asking for a long time for a lot of things and it feels the universe doesn't quite get to it.  I have been pretty beaten down as of late because I feel like I am forgotten by spirit.  I mean "GOD" cut me some slack here. 

So I say this because I think it is important to remember to trust that your messages are getting out there.  You have to trust the process and have the faith that "GOD" and spirit are over there working things out on their own time.  Things are going to get better, did you know that?  TRUST THAT.

TRUST your truth, TRUST your faith, TRUST.

Trust in yourself, trust in the gifts you will receive. 

Now let me remind everyone of one thing, we can't just put things out there in the world, "I want a new car," with out doing a little work ourselves.  Oh and remember to be specific or you will end up with a broken down car.  ;-)  I would like a newer car that will last five years or more.  Okay, now what do you need to do to make it happen?  Put it out there, trust that this will come to pass and if spirit offers you random opprotunities to make some extra money, DO IT, they are giving you the means to get this vehicle. 

TRUST, and work towards your goals.

How does your Garden Grow?
My seedlings are getting ready to be planted soon.  Come on spring!

What? Really

Okay so I was sitting here getting ready to post a story and I forgot what it is I was going to say.

So that is something I want to talk about. 

I have such a short attention span at times.  A lot of times during a reading is the only time I focus, that or writing.  So then I zone out and forget what I was going to say.

Oh I remember: 

Feedback....

As messengers and readers, feed back is so important to us.  It helps us to know which direction we are going or if you should have a bad reading, it happens, then it gives us a chance to offer you another reading, another option or even a chance for you to vent.

Sometimes, our energy is off and a reading is just off.

I also think it is important before you get a reading to ask the person what they get.

I don't get names and I don't get tiny details.  I get the impression of who the person was, I work through feelings and for me I get the sensation of who the person was and that is what I use to give information and validation.  So confirmation lets us know how we can work on improving ourselves.  We have to constantly work and learn new things to become better readers so input helps out. 

Now if you have the worst reading ever you should not be nasty to the reader.  Talk to them, they are human and we all do this, well those of us who are real, to help you with healing and movement in your life.  I have so many people who will also tell me that what I say has nothing to do with the person they loved but when they talk about them it is validation of what I said.  Please be open to listen to what is said and give it a few days to digest.

We should do that with everything, listen, digest and then respond.

You should give feed back in all of things in our life.  Tell people how you feel.  It helps keep that throat Chakra open.  Remember, kindness is key, there is always a way to deliver bad information in a kind way. 

Gentle, gentle with those in the world.

My MOMMA always said:

"If you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all."
What does this have to do with a spiritual lesson?

Take it a step further

"If you don't have anything nice to say, find something and be sincere."

Our society is raised to see what is going wrong.  To view the negative because it gets in the way of positive.  I feel that is backwards a bit.

Let's say you get a new job and your boss is less than a desirable person to work for.  I always try to look at them as not my boss, as a soul living through human experiences.  You know they could have a stressful job, be a single parent, not be as emotionally evolved as they should be, and the list goes on.  The point is to find something nice to say about them.  "Wow they really do handle all those tasks really well."  Or maybe, "my boss certainly dresses well."  I know that sounds nutty, but find something nice to say.  I believe it turns your impression of an individual around.

I have a few issues with people who make me crazy and I have named them the "crazy" people.  I stopped and thought about this the other night.  They are souls living a human experience so I thought about the kind things I could say about them and made a list. 

The more ill we talk about individuals the more negativity we put out in the world.  The more positive we view others, the more positivity we put out in the world. 

That goes for everything.  For example, you get into a car accident and your car is totaled.  You are pay check to pay check and can't really afford a payment and what stinks even more is that the accident was your fault.  Holy suck monkey butt batman this is a bad situation, but wait, what happened, you are okay.  You get another day to be with ones you loved.  Maybe in the end you will end up with a nice car or it is teaching you a lesson about frugality, saving a little that will go a long way later on.  We need to not dwell on the negative aspects of what happened but believe that all this headache is going to come with a bonus at the end.  The best rewards come from the hardest work. 

You can't look across your kingdom if you don't climb the mountain.  Everything requires effort and sometimes negative people and negative events come to us to show us how much we really have.

So, how is your Garden Growing and how is that kingdom looking?

Truth in words

Someone messaged me and said I was harsh in my post about not giving away free readings.

I am not trying to be harsh ever.
In fact that is the last thing I want to be.
I do however have a committment not only to myself but others in this community. 
We are more than happy to help others and in fact we LOVE sharing our gifts, "it's a bit of an addiction" and for us the boundaries are the hardest to set.

That being said, are there boundaries that you should be setting today?

So what was the lesson from spirit, since everyone in my community was thinking the same thing yesterday, it is important to set boundaries.

So set your boundaries in your OWN life.

Remember this blog isn't about me alone it's about you and helping you evolve.  Helping you find your true path.  Your path is never going to be the same exact path as mine or anyone elses.  So remember, if you read something and it rings true, such as drawing boundaries than embrace that.  If you felt offended by most post, stop and think about why.  Perhaps there is something to visit with in yourself that should be looked at.  I know, I have read posts and been offended and when I looked back it was something in me that I didn't like and I was having salt added to my wound.

The only way we grow spiritually is to realize we are not perfect human beings.  I make mistakes and the human side of me struggles like the rest of us.  My spiritual side knows better.  My spiritual side is pure, whole and loving.  Sometimes it's hard to grasp the fact that I am not my spiritual self here on earth.  I'd like to think I am perfect, but we all know the truth. 

Blessings and light and love

Next lesson?  I don't know, what do you want to know about?

The truth about Mediums

We are human
We bleed red blood
We cry salty tears
We feel pain
Sometimes more than others
We are helpers
We feel bad when we can't
We often stretch ourselves out
Far beyond what we should
Just to help someone
Truth is
We are good people
The hardest thing for many of us
Is to keep with in our limits
If we ever say we will get to it
It might be a week
Two weeks
A Month
Truth is
Spirit moves us
On their time frame
And our human selves
Tell us we need to rest
If spirit had it's way
We probably would never sleep
Remember
We are human
Let us bleed
Let us cry salty tears
Let us have a bad day
Let us be cranky
Let us laugh
Let us be
HUMAN

How to have a good reading

Last night I was sleeping peacefully and at some point got a message that I needed to talk about the different type of readers out there.  In my dream I was reading for someone and they said, "well the other reader said."  So here I go....  Hold onto your hats.. 

What makes a reading good vs bad?
Here they go, in order, I am even numbering them because I am awesome that way!

1.  Expectations:  What are you looking for when you go into the reading.  Now as a Medium/Reader I do not want you to go ahead and tell me, "I want to talk to my grandmother who just passed."  I want you to say, "I am looking for direction, or missing someone."  The point is if you go in expecting to get names, dates and locations from a Medium and that isn't how they read, you will be disappointed.  I always tell people, put your expectations aside and listen to the messages.

2.  A scam artist.  I CAN NOT SAY ENOUGH about this.  Do not just go and have a reading done at a "Psychic shop" on the side of the road unless you have had a referral or the rates are reasonable and it seems like a fun thing to do.  This is NOT saying that every business that is on the side of the road is a scam business but I am using that as an example.  Ask people, look for references, it's okay!

3.  Be kind to the Medium/Reader:  Many of us have guides and angels, if you come at us attacking us we are going to shut down and you will not get a read.  Listen I get being a skeptic, I am a skeptic of many readers because I have dealt with a lot of frauds taking money from vulnerable people.  So my recommendation is be kind and if your reading is really lousy, this happens withe even the best readers, tell them nicely and say, "I don't think I got what I wanted out of this." 

4.  An off day:  I watched Theresa Caputo do a televised event and she spent a good amount of time NOT getting anything.  When you watch these shows on Mediums/Psychics they show you what they got right, not what was off that day.  Remember there is a human behind the tag name of Reader, Medium, light worker, etc.

5.  Medium/Reader shopping:  You can not compare apple to oranges.  Well you can but the only thing they have in common is they are good for you right.  I mean other than that the taste, the skin, where they grow, all different.  Mediums/Readers/Light Workers and even healers all work differently.  Some of us are similar but we all have differences.  Here you go, I don't get names, I don't, souls, true pure souls do not have a name.  Sorry, you want me to say it's Uncle Bob, I don't get that, I won't get the name of your favorite places.  I get impressions, sensations, pictures and such.  I always wanted to build up my name ability but in the end, is it important if I can describe their personality and give you information that there is no way I would know about you?  People often get so wrapped up in details of EARTH specifics, and I work as a healer so my messages are to touch in with you, help you grow and find peace.  Know what kind of Medium you are working with.

I hope this helps, be blessed and be well.

So how is your Garden Growing?

Soul Mates, the contradictory opinions

I was once told we all have just one soul mate. 

One!

If we have lived hundreds of life times why just one?

If you look at the two words and understand them a little better, perhaps it will clarify all of these stories of only one for us.

Soul:  Well we know our soul is the light which is who we are.
Mate:  A person that compliments us and is a companion of sorts.
(Or just a really cool word that means friend in Australia, good day mate!)

So not to take myself to seriously, I try not to, this is a hard topic to write on and problem is, this is all going in my book. 

If you believe in past lives than you know we have had many people that impacted our lives from lovers, friends, family and the list goes on.  These people come back into our lives multiple life times.  They are soul mates, people with whom we are connected to through our souls and shall remain an important part of our growth in upcoming life times.  Now these are not always people that are meant to stay in our lives, perhaps we have something to finish with them.  They ARE soul mates in the greatest sense.

We have parents who come back and children, friends and lovers.  In my case, well there are a lot of those, damn past life.  ;-)  The point being, each person who comes into our lives is here to help us learn something or work through something.  Embrace that lesson.

Now I think when most of us think of soul mates we think of lovers, partners, not our friends.  We have friends that are soul mates also though.  So embrace them, there will always be that person you feel so close to and you don't understand why.  You obviously don't feel the need to have sex with them, (or maybe you do, I don't judge ;-)) the point being, they are someone you can trust, that you love and appreciate.  The closeness is not really something that is understood but appreciated.  I have many friends like this.  I keep getting more and I like it. 

So then there is the ONE WE THINK OF.  OUR LOVERS.  Oh I love the lovers.  That person you meet and you feel such a strong connection to.  You are in sync, you get each other, but please stop a moment, PUT ON THE BREAKS.  JUST DON'T RUN DOWN THE ALTER....
This can be one of those lesson soul mates or it can be a life mate.  Life mates are people that are supposed to be in our lives until they die or we die.  One of us has to go to the other side.  Now, what happens is, many of us meet soul mates that we think are life mates but they are really here for a lesson.  Are you confused yet?  Of course you are, I get confused all the time.

So let me go on about it this way.  Soul mates are people that are in our lives almost all the time.  Lessons to be learned.  The thing that most of us are looking for is LIFE MATES.  These Life mates balance us, we feel the connection, we understand each other with out speaking, the sexual connection (lust) is often not strong at first always but grows.  There is a desire to be near them and this is just one of those things we embrace. 

I remember when I was younger every person I dated I thought would last forever.  With the exception for one, still not sure what I was thinking.  Anyway, we don't want to go off on that tangent, for some of us we love deeply.  That doesn't mean that we are meant to be with the person we are with.  We can love someone, have them be a soul mate but they are not a life mate.  Sometimes letting go of that person is a lesson for us.  A painful lesson about how to let go of someone so they can be loved the way they should be and we can be loved the way we should be.  We have lessons....

So someone said, "do we have soul mates?"

We have a lot, it is really a term that I try not to embrace too often.

So to my past life soul mates that existed during the darkest past lives, or the most fun ;-)  I love your passion and thank you.

To my family from past lives that live with me now, I love you deeply.

To my lovers, it's been fun.

To my friends, merci beaucoup.

To my life mate, ;-)

Embrace, live, love, laugh and don't be too serious about this soul mate thing.  You will know when the life mate shows up.  As the couple said last night, they both knew at the first date, this was my future husband, this was my future wife.  We know and that isn't to say that the lives will be smooth sailing, we still have lessons, with our life mate.  Don't let that connection fool you.  Challenges are there to make us stronger and our relationship stronger.

Be brave, be strong, love, laugh, live and remember, tend to your garden.  No one else is going to do it for you.

This will be expanded upon in my book.  This is my free flow thought on the topic so hope it makes sense. 

xoxoxo